Maybe in theory, but the idea that nations that trade doesn’t go to war is a naive one, it has happened plenty and will happen again.
As for the structure of voting etc, it’s just a matter of pushing until people give up.
Indeed, which is why entanglement goes deeper than simply trade. The emergence of pan-European companies like Airbus makes the cost for one country to go alone much steeper. Same for the establishment of EU-wide supply chains. There are also incentives to play nice in the form of the customs union and the single market. The moment you leave, you’re on the wrong side of a trade barrier.