the way this is stated is troubling in that it proposes an aysimetric idea of "close friend" which is just one more version of hiarchical structure in human society, rather than something
based on seeing things from the same perspective
and the trust and understanding that comes.....after that discovery
ie: "intentionlly making", vs finding
I would suggest that the quality of the people that inhabit the mutual appreciation societys that pass as friendships amongst the "popular" extroverts is the impetus behind this sort of blind quest, the unrecorded and hard to imagine
blank realisation of the inevitable "stalemates" in there social jockeing, no one there, vulnerable, to anything at all....how dry and tedious, that must be
> This definition of a 'close friend' is problematic as it promotes an asymmetric, hierarchical view, overlooking the importance of shared perspectives, trust, and understanding. Genuine friendships are typically found through mutual discovery, not 'intentionally made'. Perhaps this emphasis on 'making' friends is prevalent among popular extroverts, whose relationships often resemble superficial 'mutual appreciation societies'. This constant social jockeying, devoid of real vulnerability, likely results in unspoken stalemates and a sense of emptiness. Such interactions must surely be dry and tedious.
Agree to some extent. Though isn't one more likely to find an actual friend in a 'mutual appreciation society'?
