I love my kids and agree with some things you said, but I should point out that time feels way faster since I had kids. Our "just a blip" is _months_, which is a lot of time for a human being.
And my "hobbies" were all shared with my wife, so I can still practice them, but they are all affected.
Having two close by does help: they play a lot together.
Hanging with your kids is beautiful, but at times I would like to use all my brainpower, rather than 10% of it. I can't do that meaningfully if I play with them.
Either way, I don't regret having them, they are amazing. I love how they climb on you all the time. I love how they are attached to my wife.
Trying to figure out how to maintain a good relationship in teenager years, I'm afraid it's really hard.
And my "hobbies" were all shared with my wife, so I can still practice them, but they are all affected.
Having two close by does help: they play a lot together.
Hanging with your kids is beautiful, but at times I would like to use all my brainpower, rather than 10% of it. I can't do that meaningfully if I play with them.
Either way, I don't regret having them, they are amazing. I love how they climb on you all the time. I love how they are attached to my wife. Trying to figure out how to maintain a good relationship in teenager years, I'm afraid it's really hard.