It honestly makes me so sad to see how people judge each other for living with their parents. I often read/contribute to r/PersonalFinance on Reddit the most common attitude there seems to be that people living with their pares stealing free rent.
Why is it so hard for people to believe that someone might just love their family and wish to spend a significant portion of their adult life enjoying and nurturing those relationships?
Agreed it's no one's place to judge someone without knowing anything about their situation.
In saying that, where I come from in Australia it's extremely normal to spend early 20s in the family home, and I was usually the one encouraging my friends to get out. Not that there was something wrong with their families, but at least in this culture, I could see my friends living in unhappy bubbles, surrounded by the same family/friends they'd been around since they were kids, feeling trapped.
In those cases, getting out (different city, different country, at least different house) can be the best thing for people's personal development and even mental healths.
My point is just that it can go both ways depending on the specific situation.
OTOH some people need the psychologist because they aren't living with their parents.
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Saying "an edge case exists" sounds really helpful to push your viewpoint but if you can just put "not" in the sentence and it's still just as true... what've we gained in the conversation by saying it?
>You're 30 still living with your parents, you won't amount to anything.
More like, fail to achieve cultural expectations, "you won't amount to anything."
The average guy living at home at 30 in USA is probably not as geared towards success as the average person living at home at 30 in a country where something else is the measure of success. There are exceptions but people who meet their own countries standards tends to correlate with overall life success.
Clearly you can buck the cultural expectations and succeed, so it's not a hard and fast rule. Of course, some cultural expectations are more difficult to overcome than others: if you piss publicly next to the highway it could earn you a felony charge and torpedo your career, even though there's no practical reason why pissing by the side of the road should make you a lifelong failure.
> Meanwhile they leave alone with a dog,
> - need a ton of additional psychotherapy to stay sane.
> - Need to setup appointments to see their own parents
Your mileage may vary. It's not inter-generational but I (31 years) live in a house with my brother (26 years) and sister (25 years) live in a house we own together all with our own respective partners, etc. It's not for everyone but I promise you this. We ain't lonely. lol.
For sure, I just mean, nuclear families aren't the only option that is enjoyable to live with.
My mom lived with us until she found a husband. It has some negatives, but I think it's handedly beaten by the positives if you enjoy your family's company.
There is such thing as Inter-generational living.
You often see advice on the internet: Why are you 20 and still living with your parents, you're a loser.
You're 30 still living with your parents, you won't amount to anything.
Yeah right!!!
Meanwhile they leave alone with a dog,
- need a ton of additional psychotherapy to stay sane.
- Need to setup appointments to see their own parents
No thanks.