It's because if you're in a relationship, you're considered a more valuable member of the society. Because it signals that someone has selected you to be around for a prolonged amount of time. Being single is more expensive in a big city.

It is punishing couples, not rewarding them. The amount given to two single people is $34,000. The amount given to two people in a relationship is $24,000.

Being a couple is 1.5x more expensive than being single.

Probably under the assumption that pooling resources and sharing a house means their expenses are NOT the same as two single people.

I miss C++ a lot. The modern standard library is a thing of beauty IMO. Such a shame that I could not find a good gig when I was looking few months ago, at least not where I am.

Looks like Tesla though are doing C with C++ features rather than C++. I'd also be interested in knowing what their "hardcore" questions are like...I heard that they ask a lot from your past experience.

> Looks like Tesla though are doing C with C++ features rather than C++

Tesla's UI is in Qt 5 which is fairly C++

Good point. Whenever I see a job ad advertising C/C++ together, it's basically saying "we do C with objects".

It's a problem IRL, too. I am astonished by how much disinterested people are in each other. I am very good at keeping a conversation going, I become genuinely interested in the person and ask as many follow-up questions as possible. Unless I know what we're talking about falls into my experiences, I'd refrain from talking about myself.

But what I see constantly is that people have gone from a "what about you" mindset to "what about me" mindset. My conversations end as soon as the person is done answering my questions about them. Like, zero reciprocation, which is god awful.

If these people participate online, where they can mainly get away with being a shitty personality, then this toxicity is not that surprising to see.

User experiences are crafted to make the user the center of attention, or gives them the levers to do so (Instagram and Facebook, for example). The result, while depressing (and what you observe), should be of no surprise to anyone.

I have no solution, only a small piece of advice: seek out others with empathy and active interest in others. Avoid narcissists like the plague. Be humble.

Probably was before Tinder, even.

I met her in Munich 5 years ago while I was en route from San Francisco to Brussels for FOSDEM. (I stopped in the Munich Google office for a bit on that trip.)

Now everyone has a TV in their pockets with infinite ads. IG, FB, Tinder, etc.

It's interesting that you think that. I have a TV in my pocket with no ads. It's what I always dreamt of!

I am not surprised. She somehow was able to bleed her employees dry for business benefits. People at power love someone like that. Of course they're not gonna let her go so easily.

I mean, aren't all social interactions performative at some level?

are you performing when you socialize with people?

Sure, but attractive people with shitty personalities have to lose things, whereas unattractive people with good personalities need to earn. And when there are many attractive people around, there isn't much left to earn.

So ..

The Rock? Jason Statham? Oscar de la Renta? Tom Ford's receding hairline?

I mean, your point is just not taken. Plenty of men wear baldness well, and plenty of men with hair do not.

I never said bald men cannot be handsome. I was saying "get a nice haircut" implies that.

This is simply untrue. The great thing about being bald is you can never have a bad haircut. Bald men, like men with long hair, or women with really short hair, appeal more to some people and less to others. But there's definitely no need to conclude you're screwed.

Physical attractiveness also matters way less for men in general. Personality and lifestyle are much more important.

Also, unattractive people would feel like shit in this environment.